Personal influence

To be successful in any area of life, at anything, and to make a positive impact on the people around you, you need to have personal influence.  Some believe that certain people were born naturally influential or “charismatic”.  In fact, the most influential people in the world were not born that way; rather they have studied it, worked hard at it, and know that influence starts with the ability to influence oneself, which may seem a strange concept.  Indeed, some elements of personal influence are slightly intangible, and others more concrete, and essentially comprise sevenkey building blocks:

  1. Authenticity – overcoming limiting beliefs and decisions and enhancing your authenticity through knowing your values
  2. Thinking flexibility – knowing how to adapt your communication to connect with anyone, regardless of their thinking style, and then influence them for a win-win solution
  3. Body language (55% of communication) – using the language of your body to enhance your personal power, your drive and determination and to strengthen your message
  4. Cultural flexibility –adopting the “cultural hat” of another person to enhance your leverage and create a win-win solution

“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions”
Oliver Wendell Holmes

  1. Language – mastering language to enhance your own personal power and linguistics to help others change and take action
  2. Voice (38% of communication) – varying the tone, tempo and volume of your voice to maximise the impact of your message
  3. Public speaking – using both logic and emotion to influence others to change and take action

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”    Maya Angelou

Master all seven, and there is nothing you can’t influence.